My pastor, in-laws, instigated my wife to divorce me
Chief Odunade Ademola of a Mapo customary court, Ibadan on Tuesday dissolved a 15-year-old-marriage between one Adeola Ayobami and Oyedeji Ayobami over unresolved marital crisis.
Odunade held that the crisis in the marriage deserves urgent decision of the court because threat to life was involved.
He ordered the defendant to take custody of the first three children in the marriage while the last child was given to the plaintiff.
The president said after listening to their argument, the court had established that the parents of the wife and her parents contributed to the challenges facing the family.
Odunade urged parents and clergies to teach their subjects how to live a peaceful life for betterment of the society.
The petitioner had earlier told the court that she intended to divorce her husband because of constant battery. She said: “My lord, the way my husband behave many time make me to see myself as his enemy. He beats me on even trivial issues. I cannot cope again because the beating was too much. He does not want to sight me again. He didn’t give me rest of mind and he complains about almost everything.”
Ayodeji who refused to accept the divorce terms said divorce is against the doctrine of his religion, adding that he was concerned about the future of the children in the marriage.
He said “my lord, it is true that I beat her when she started starving me with sex. I told her father to intervene three months after she started starving me with sex, so that the issues could be resolved but her father did not caution her.
“Also, since we have our own church we attend, I instructed her never to attend another church, she didn’t listen to me. Returning home from work recently, I caught her in our sitting room with two men whom she later told me were members of her new church. I warned her again, she didn’t listen.
“There was a day I over heard her conversation with a man on the phone and she said it was her friend’s husband which I knew it was a lie. When we took the case to our father in the Lord, instead of him to solve the crisis, he added to it. That was the only time I beat her.
“So, I have discovered that both my in-laws and our pastors were behind the crisis. I am also ready for divorce, if she insisted,” Ayobami said.